How to Prove You Are Next of Kin After a Death: Step-By-Step

Kim DelMonico, BA, JD, Esq.

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Kim DelMonico, BA, JD, Esq.

Learn how to prove you are next of kin with information on when you need to prove your kinship, how to determine you are next of kin, and steps to take.

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Who do you think of when you hear the term next of kin ? Do you think of your spouse or siblings or children? What about your great-grandparent or a long-lost cousin? Did they cross your mind?

The term next of kin can be confusing. It can have different meanings depending on the context. When dealing with medical decisions, next of kin may mean something different than when dealing with end-of-life matters.

Next of kin can even have a different meaning depending on where you live. This is because states have different laws regarding next of kin. This includes different laws regarding how next of kin is defined after a death.

If you have questions about what it means to be next of kin after a death, then this article is for you. Here, we discuss how to prove you are next of kin after a death.

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How Do You Know You Are Next of Kin After a Loved One Dies?

It’s never easy losing a loved one. In addition to all of the emotions, there are very practical legal matters that must be addressed as well.

As mentioned above, each state has its own laws dealing with next of kin after a death. These laws include probate laws and laws regarding intestate succession.

Probate is the court-supervised process of administering a person’s estate after they die. A person’s estate includes all of their personal property, real property, and even their debts.

After a person dies, what happens to the deceased’s property depends on the laws of their state and whether they died with or without a will. If a person dies with a will, they are said to have died testate. In that instance, the terms of the will direct what happens to their property.

If a person dies without a will, they are said to have died intestate . In that instance, the laws of the state where they resided direct what happens to their property. Keep in mind that even if a person dies with a will, the laws of intestate succession may still determine what happens to their property. This can occur if the will is invalid or if the will does not address all of the deceased’s property.

Each state has its own laws of intestate succession. These laws provide an order of priority for who can inherit property when a person dies without a will. The laws tend to presume that when a person dies, they would want their property to go to their closest living relative.

Who is a person’s closest living relative depends on their family structure. In most instances, the closest relatives are the deceased’s spouse, children (including adopted children), and parents. When someone dies without immediate family , the law extends out to include other relatives such as siblings and grandparents.

If you are the deceased person’s closest living relative, you would be their next of kin. In some instances, it can be easy to know if you are the deceased’s next of kin. For example, if you lost your spouse, then you would be their next of kin. Additionally, if you are an only child and lost your only living parent, then you would be their next of kin.

However, complex situations can arise with family members. This can occur when someone dies that is closely related to you, but you are unsure of how close. This can also occur with distant relatives.

If you want to figure out if you are the next of kin of a deceased loved one, you need to look at the laws of the state where the deceased resided. If you are unsure of the laws, then you should contact a probate attorney licensed to practice law in the state where the deceased resided.

Understanding the state’s laws is important because, as discussed above, each state has its own laws regarding intestate succession. This means that who is or isn’t next of kin can vary by state. If you want to know if you are next of kin, you need to know the laws of the state where the deceased resided.

Once you have accessed the state's laws on intestate succession, you need to know how you are related to the deceased. If you are closely related, then determining your relationship should be relatively simple. You will also need to determine if there are any other living relatives of the deceased. This process will be discussed in more detail in a later section.

When Do You Typically Have to Prove You Are Next of Kin After a Death?

If a person dies without a will, then the state’s laws regarding intestate succession determine what happens to their property. However, before the process can even begin, someone must start the process. This person is called the executor or the personal representative. The executor is in charge of administering the estate, but they can’t do anything until they are appointed by the court.

When a person creates a will, they often use the legal document to name an executor. When a person dies without a will, then the laws of the state where the deceased resided determine who may apply to be the executor. The person applying is often a surviving relative.

If multiple people apply to be the executor, then appointment is often done through priority based on state law. Priority tends to go to the closest surviving relatives, such as the spouse or a child, over more distant relatives.

Keep in mind that most states do not require that a person be a relative in order to be an executor. However, a relationship to the deceased does tend to give someone priority.

If a person dies without a will, then you may need to prove that you are the next of kin. You may have to prove that you are next of kin in a variety of circumstances. One instance when you may need to prove that you are next of kin is if you’re asking the court to appoint you as executor of the estate.

As mentioned above, there is a priority of appointment. If multiple family members are petitioning the court to be appointed executor, then you may need to prove that you are the closest surviving relative.

Another instance when you may need to prove that you are next of kin is if you think you may be entitled to inherit under the state’s intestate succession laws. As discussed earlier, each state has its own intestate succession laws. These laws say who is entitled to inherit if a person dies without a will.

Under intestate succession laws, a person’s closest living relatives tend to inherit first. If you have lost a loved one, then you may need to prove that you are next of kin in order to get your inheritance.

If you are closely related to the deceased, then proving your relationship may be simple. However, familial relationships can be complicated. If nobody knew about your relationship to the deceased, then you may need to prove that you are next of kin to protect your inheritance.

Time is of the essence when it comes to probate matters. If you think that you are the next of kin to a loved one, then you should take steps immediately to prove your relationship. If you are unsure of how to proceed, we have provided the steps to follow below. Keep reading to learn how to prove you are next of kin after a loved one dies.

Steps for Proving You Are Next of Kin After a Loved One Dies

Sometimes, proving you are next of kin is easier said than done. Below are the steps for proving you are next of kin after a loved one dies.

Talk to an attorney

Time is of the essence when it comes to probate matters. If you have any concerns about proving that you are next of kin after a loved one dies, you may want to consult with an attorney licensed to practice law in the state where the deceased resided. This can be an important step for anyone, especially a distant relative that thinks there may be contention with the estate.

Gather any relevant documents and identification

If you need to prove you are next of kin after a loved one dies, then you may need to provide identification and other documents supporting your relationship claim. At some point, you may need to prove that you are who you say you are.

When that moment arises, then you are going to have to provide identification, such as a driver's license. Making sure that you have a current driver’s license or another form of identification can help the process move forward.

You may also have to provide additional proof of your relationship to the deceased. If you have documents, such as a birth certificate, you may want to gather that as well. If you are a more distant relative, then you may have to get more creative in proving your relationship. This can include providing an affidavit attesting to your relationship. In some instances, it may be possible to provide a DNA test to prove your relationship.

Determine other relatives

Next of kin means that you are the deceased’s closest living relative. This means that you are not only proving that you are a relative of the deceased, but that you are the closest living relative of the deceased. The way you may have to prove this is by listing other known relatives of the deceased.

You may want to list those who are deceased as well as those who are alive. While the court may only require that you identify known living relatives, listing all known relatives (to a certain degree) can help you establish that you are in fact the closest living relative. Identifying other relatives can also be helpful in proving that you are next of kin if you are relying on a DNA test.

File with the court or notify the executor

After talking to an attorney, gathering documents and identification, and determining other potential relatives, your next step in proving you are next of kin is either filing the appropriate paperwork with the court or, if the probate process has already begun, notifying the executor.

The court where you need to file paperwork is most likely the court in the county where the deceased resided. If you are unsure, then you should consult with a probate attorney.

If the probate process has already begun, then you should reach out to the executor. You may still need to file paperwork with the court. If you believe that the executor excluded you on purpose or if the probate process is already underway, then you may want to ask an attorney for assistance. The sooner you obtain legal assistance, the sooner you can begin proving that you are the deceased’s next of kin.

Time Is of the Essence

If you have recently lost a loved one and believe that you are next of kin, time is of the essence. The longer you wait to prove your relationship, the more you risk losing any rights that you may have. Take the steps today to prove that you are the next of kin.

If you are concerned about your rights with a living loved one, talk to them. Today is the perfect time to start the process of end-of-life planning.